“hold off, So is this a night out together?” Podcast Episode 209: Bottoming with Chingy | Autostraddle

Let us make some noise for your bottoms in the home! (its myself, the base in the home.) Bottom customs happens to be rather something™ Online as of late! But what can it really indicate are a bottom? Exactly why has got the tradition chose bottoming is actually similar to getting afraid to inquire of for just what you desire? And exactly how really does someone begin choosing should they like bottoming?!

With these questions rattling around all of our brains, requiring answers, Drew and I knew there clearly was one person we’re able to go to for a rounded, passionate dialogue about bottoming: The Gay Chingy AKA Chingy Nea, AKA the base Supreme. Chingy is just one of the most useful individuals i am aware creating and tweeting these days, so when a bottom myself personally, i’m recognized to call the woman my personal chief. Chingy helps us tease what it means to be a bottom, exactly why she detests “smol bean” bottom society, your system as gap, and your body as

whole

. It really is a very gorgeous discussion, basically carry out say so myself personally! Please know that I am aware that we say “gorgeous” more or less three thousand occasions this occurrence, I am also seeking support for my personal situation. (the situation is talking like 57 year-old white homosexual guy.)

And! This week’s game entails myself guessing if the difficult plots Drew defines belong to a film or a dream she had circa 2006. It is not easy!


PROGRAM RECORDS

+ Read Chingy’s
Bottom Manifesto
, follow her
on Twitter
and
IG
!

+here’s a summary of all the films that received found in her online game:


  • The Seventh Seal

    (1937)

  • Bringing Up Kid

    (1938)


  • Pierrot ce Fou


    (1965)

  • Ebony Swan

    (2010)

+Watch Anna Faris perform the most useful work of her job in

Smiley Face!


+Let

Shohreh Aghdashloo chat one to sleep while outfitted as Chrisjen


Avasarala


from

The Expanse

as you are entitled to that.


+Cindy Wilson in the B52s is fairly hot and honestly? “Love Shack” still whips!


+
Robert Mitchum
, stone-cold fox.



EPISODE


Chingy

: i have just been bottoming since I have ended up being, I don’t know, dating back i could remember.


Drew

: Cue Rags to wealth from

Goodfellas.


Chingy

: dating back I am able to recall, i usually wished to end up being a base, no, but particular

[intro performs]


Drew

: Hi, I’m Drew.


Christina

: I Am Christina.


Drew

: Welcome to

Hold off, Is It a night out together

?


Christina

:

Wait, Is This a Date?

is an Autostraddle podcast dedicated to the one, the actual only real the greatest question of our occasions: hold off, Is This a night out together?


Drew

: And, wow, I absolutely simply froze upwards truth be told there.


Christina

: I found myself like, oh crap, I found myself supposed to say anything! [laughs]


Drew

: I’m actually quick into the banter, my brain merely… the fact is that I found myself checking out over my personal video game records, which we aren’t at yet because we still need to introduce ourselves. Therefore, I’m going to you will need to stay focused on one job at the same time.


Christina

: Focus up!


Drew

: My name is Drew Gregory, i’m an author for Autostraddle, and a filmmaker, and a trans girl.


Christina

: Hi, my name is Christina Tucker, forgot my personal final title for a hot min, no fuss. I will be also an author at Autostraddle along with other spots on the net, a podcaster, a but gay black woman. That is particular it, puppy, that’s myself.


Drew

: I like it. Okay, today we-


Christina

: today the online game.


Drew

: Can we have fun with the game?


Christina

: Can we get to the video game? I’m able to reveal’re thrilled, I am able to show’re only vibrating.


Drew

: So, i am keeping a dream journal since 2007, together with idea within this game is-


Christina

: I didn’t understand this about you!


Drew

: Yes, it isn’t as up to date today, I used to take note of all my personal hopes and dreams and from now on it is only when some thing truly sticks. But, the assumption of the game is actually, am we describing the story of an aspiration I got once I was actually an adolescent, or in the morning we describing the land of a motion picture that I liked when I ended up being a teenager?


Christina

: Oh man, okay.


Drew

: Thus, the way in which it’ll get is I’ll usually describe it an aspiration plus in the initial person. So, if it ended up being

Celebrity Wars,

I would be like, i am in room and I’m battling as part of a rebellion, so there’s a wicked  man who is dressed in a black robot fit and it ends up he is my dad. That’s the way I’ll explain it, how we explain goals, but often it would be an aspiration, sometimes it’ll be from a film. Prepared?


Christina

: i am something, I am not sure that i am ready, but why don’t we rock. Let us see just what I’m able to carry out here.


Drew

: Okay, I’m on a beach and I see this strange guy dressed up in black colored. He informs me he’s dying so we can enjoy a game to choose basically live or if he takes me. I have the ability to escape, but every-where I go, folks are ill and I also feel just like dying is still soon after me.The just delighted component is when I meet a theater troupe and they’re lots of fun.


Christina

: This,i believe, is an aspiration.


Drew

: This would be Ingmar Bergman’s

The Seventh Seal

from 1957.


Christina

: that is will be an actual gotcha on CT’s traditional motion picture understanding, because everything I realize that Drew, in your adolescence, was not carrying out was watching flicks that i will recognize. Now, I’m particular wishing that I have seen not one of them. In my opinion that is to be more fun for me.


Drew

: the 2nd one, I’m interviewing my loved ones and some Italian United states gangsters. One of the gangsters needs that we give over some funds, but my children and I were able to get away. We run away through all this work snowy terrain, on the road I fulfill an actress and relate to their. We result in a suburb. In my opinion we’re going to start another life collectively until she takes us to a big mansion, and I also realize it belongs to the gangster. It was all a trap, the gangster comes there’s a confrontation. We eliminate him, the dream ends up aided by the celebrity executing a musical quantity.


Christina

: So is this a movie?


Drew

: this could be a dream I experienced in 2008.


Christina

: Okay, wow. Boy, yeah, I guess i need to understand that its 2000, it really is old school received head. That’s what i need to remember.


Drew

: additionally want, just what flicks ended up being I watching at that time and just how a lot did that effect my desires?


Christina

: Well, yeah, plainly quite a lot!


Drew

: an enjoyable fact is that I was in fact, i did not include this because I imagined this would provide out, although gangster ended up being Tony Soprano because I became viewing

The Sopranos

in 2008. Very, which is a great little reality. Okay, next one, I have a significant assignment, but this hot girl shows up and starts distracting me personally. I do want to be with her, but In addition should get might work accomplished, therefore I inform this lady to go away. She helps to keep following me personally. All of a sudden, a leopard seems inside my room and that I need to spend remaining fantasy attempting to find the leopard. I am however actually stressed, We never complete might work, but at the very least the girl is hot.


Christina

: it’s become an aspiration of yours, this has to-be a Drew fantasy.


Drew

: This Might Be Howard Hawks’

Bringing-up Kid

from 1938.


Christina

: No, but that’s an aspiration you have, that is the a lot of Drew dream I’ve heard. Today at this stage, i am simply probably going to be rewriting flick record, to match my personal whims.


Drew

: Great, I adore that. Okay, I’m at a celebration and I also do not love anyone there. Finally, we see this woman, we once had a crush on and in addition we choose to keep collectively. We head to her home, but are chased off by this number of guys who’re trying to eliminate the lady. We end on a beach therefore appears like we’re going to be ok before the guys look for all of us. She ends up becoming into this different man, thus I just take cartoonish dynamite and determine to strike myself personally up


Christina

: Movie.


Drew

: this will be! This is exactly Jean Luc Goddard’s

Pierrot ce Fou

, from 1965.


Christina

: have-not seen, but that appears like a ding dang movie in my opinion.


Drew

: Great, I love it. There is a narration explaining an odd watercraft like design which is impossible to damage. I want on a retreat nearby the framework, the refuge is kind of movie theater related, type of spiritual. We have a crush about this woman within retreat, but she has a boyfriend. Amid the shows and traditions, there are many crisis between me personally and this also lady along with her date, it ends with me by yourself. There’s been a sequence disclosing that vessel structure is actually impossible to ruin because a mechanical supply fixes it inside the evening.


Christina

: that would be such a thing in plenty methods, i’ll say movie once again, you need to?


Drew

: its a dream from 2011, that did have narration from some other person, you know, it happens!


Christina

: This is really great promo to own an aspiration journal, because personally i think like it might be enjoyable if I could bear in mind my personal desires in this way.


Drew

: No person likes once you explain the fantasies for them. I do though, and that I’m the buddy, when you should write down the aspirations and let me know, I would like to learn about all of them.


Christina

: Okay, that is very nice to hear.


Drew

: We have two more.


Christina

: Okay.


Drew

: I’m in an attractive garden with a small grouping of pals, we all seem to be getting up from becoming drugged. We’re obligated to bathe in an acid that empties pigment and now we become blond and blue-eyed. The people in charge begin teaching you to destroy, as it happens this place has been operate by a crazy dictator, I resist getting entirely brainwashed. There is this lady truth be told there You will find a crush on and I convince her to escape with me, while leaking out I get recorded and slain, nevertheless girl gets out. Whenever she makes the prison, she knows we’re in the center of a forest so there’s nowhere going.


Christina

: Film.


Drew

: that will be the first fantasy inside my dream record from, we mentioned, “2007.” Is in reality 2006.


Christina

: Wow.


Drew

: I always believed it actually was interesting that I perish during the fantasy, nevertheless other person goes on on. However, there is some strange sex material taking place here, and I’m browsing have to consider this 1 for some time.


Christina

: undoubtedly do that.


Drew

: Okay, I have an additional.


Christina

: Okay.


Drew

: i am because of the possible opportunity to be a ballerina, my mom claims i will not have the ability to do so. Absolutely this other woman inside tv series which i believe is hot, but i am stressed she’s going to change me personally. I am struggling in rehearsal, but-end up making with all the girl, we hook-up. It is hot, but i’m myself personally losing control, we return to the dance program. My body system seems to be morphing into another thing, i am stressed that i will mess-up.


Christina

: this might be a film.


Drew

: Therefore,

Ebony Swan

.


Christina

: Yes, this is certainly

Dark Swan

, truly.


Drew

: Have you viewed

Black Swan

? That has been one I imagined you’ve seen.


Christina

: I’ve come across

Black Swan

, I… Fun fact, we continued a date with a person observe

Ebony Swan

.


Drew

: Wow.


Christina

: simply straight things I did.


Drew

: What was that like?


Christina

: crazy, it absolutely was unusual.


Drew

: Do you such as the film? Performed he such as the film?


Christina

: i do believe, I experienced currently observed it, i do believe I was similar, “Let’s get notice it once more.” I do believe, I became extremely pro

Black Swan,

as well as straight heterosexual reasons, truly.


Drew

: Sure, okay.


Christina

: And, he was like, “That was unusual.” And I also had been like, “Oh well, we aren’t planning continue steadily to big date.”


Drew

: Wow, well I wish him the best, i really hope he is someplace doing well. Thank-you for playing this game with me.


Christina

: Wow, I’m very happy we moved two for nevertheless many we performed thereon.


Drew

: perhaps not terrible.


Christina

: perhaps not terrible.


Drew

: You Probably Did better than Elise performed while I wished to find out if this is a practical video game which could work, and she ended up being my personal guinea pig. So, she only got one right.


Christina

: Fair enough.


Drew

: Should we proceed to our primary topic on the few days?


Christina

: Let’s go into it, why don’t we fully grasp this unique visitor in.


Drew

: Well, I would like to 1st point out that our main topic for the week is bottoming, therefore we could have only one very special guest.


Christina

: It really is singular individual.


Drew

: is it possible to please present your self?


Chingy

: Hi, I’m Chingy Nea, also referred to as The Gay Chingy. I’m an author, Filmmaker, and gasian leather-based dyke muppet. I’m additionally America’s number one bottom.


Christina

: Yes, i believe when we were discussing subject areas and we also’re like, “We could speak about bottoming so there’s practically just one person we can easily have on the pod to achieve this, absolutely only one person who is very practically the Supreme.”


Chingy

: Thank you so much for knowing, it feels very good to have your wonder acknowledged, many thanks


Christina

: Yes, therefore’ve done fantastic work, and right here the audience is knowing it.


Drew

: i do want to know as soon as you feel just like you turned into The united states’s greatest bottom. Whenever had been that a word and a label and an identity you truly held onto?


Chingy

: Well, so I usually just state, “I’m underneath Supreme.” Because, which cares about The united states?


Drew

: Certain.


Christina

: Fair adequate.


Chingy

: Yeah, i do believe that I always was effective in bottoming, but in 2017 or something, we decided to go to a play celebration that has been just for fem top sadists conquering myself right up for six to seven many hours directly, and it also was only me personally, and I also had been like, “Oh, i am the most effective that is actually already been.” After which, i do believe following that, i recently held escalating and being, wow, I’m thus fun to view. Wow, i am very interesting as a bottom, this might be wow, everyone who extends to top me personally is indeed happy. And, it simply moved following that, I think, immediately after which I penned an article also known as i am a better Bottom Than You. Listed Here Is The Reason Why. It had been particular a manifesto, it had been a bottom manifesto.


Christina

: indeed, can verify.


Chingy

: And, many individuals have informed me, “It really is altered how they evaluate intercourse.” And, I really like that many. This is the one article back at my website that I created here. I have written at

Vice

,

Teenage Vogue

,

Vulture

—

Autostraddle

had been one destination we penned, actually. But yeah, that’s the one blog back at my web site, if you want to look it over.


Christina

: I favor a good brand name, I favor once you understand a brand name, and I also think’s actually attractive, merely, brand name management of your personal bottomy your self. I do believe, which is actually gorgeous to see.


Chingy

: thanks, i acquired my first authorship chance at

Autostraddle

because I found myself currently talking about getting a bottom, being poly, and being actually strong into getting a leather dyke. And because after that, I’ve started initially to write on a lot of other stuff, but becoming bottom part supreme only method of is the one through line of it-all.


Christina

: Yes.


Drew

: I additionally feel like you are a rather effective bottom as well as in the way you discuss, and talk about, and I also think knowledge bottoming that you are very energetic. Whereas, In my opinion there’s lots of the queer society, perhaps, particularly the lesbian society, that possibly thinks about bottoming as… I’m not sure-


Chingy:

Passivity

.


Christina

: Mm-hmm

(Affirmative)

.


Drew

: Yeah.


Chingy

: Yeah, I typically say that there’s much less bottoms than men and women think tend to be bottoms. I believe absolutely an improvement between getting a bottom and just not knowing or seeking what you want. I do believe those are two completely different things that people conflate.


Christina

: I would personally need to concur, In addition think the way you discuss bottoming is, after all, let us just state it, much less aggravating than the method more and more people talk about becoming a bottom or recognize with bottom part society. Because, i actually do feel that what lots of people assert explicitly or non explicitly is simply, i’m lazy and don’t proper care doing any sort of activity, activity, et-cetera, i’d like things done to myself. And, easily must seek that in any way, that hurts my personal emotions. And, you are so good so strong at being, these represent the items that i would like, bring them to me and I also will rock and roll your globe. That is gorgeous if you ask me.


Chingy

: many thanks, after all, that is what you need to do to get effective in just something, you must place your self nowadays and check out and then make errors and obtain harm somewhat, and, I don’t know, study on it.


Christina

: I think which is good message, frankly.


Chingy

: i have only been bottoming since I was actually, I don’t know, as far back as i could bear in mind. [laughs]


Drew

: Cue “Rags to Riches” from

Goodfellas

.


Chingy

: Yeah, as far back as I’m able to bear in mind, i wished to be a bottom. No, but particular, as I ended up being 13 or 14, I was already considering SADOMASOCHISM internet sites and lesbian BDSM web sites. Very, I becamen’t under any delusions with what I became when it comes to, I found myself having girls we dated in twelfth grade choke me , we knew everything I wished. And thus, that amount of awareness has just offered myself quite a few years to understand what i’d like and figure out how to have it.


Christina

: Gorgeous, Drew, provide myself your emotions on bottoming.


Drew

: Well, I’m actually really thrilled to speak about this simply because i’m like in 2019 {when I|as I|while

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